Saturday, July 21, 2007

Madhu Vs Madhuri

Life is extremely mysterious.

No one knows what is there in their destiny.

But we still keep moving on.

Madhubala has lived a tragedic life for 36 Years.

In fact I can say a miserable life.She had a worst childhood.

Her entire family was dependent on her.

She had to struggle for everything.

Becoming a star also was not easy for her.

In the mid 1950s when some of her major films like Mehboob Khan's Amar flopped, Madhubala, the most beautiful actress in the country was declared 'box office poison!'

She however bounced back with a string of hits in the 1958-60 period - Phagun (1958), Howrah Bridge (1958), Kala Pani (1958), Chalti ka Naam Gaadi (1958) - all among her more memorable films and of course Mughal-e-Azam (1960).

Her tragic love story, her pathetic married life and above all her health.

The most beautiful lady with the worst life.

I really felt bad when I read this from

"Madhubala remained with her family. Her love for Dilip remaining unchanged, the decision that she felt impelled to take proved to be a singular mistake of judgement, for it robbed her of her health, her happiness and her peace of mind. For a girl as loving and emotional as she was, the decision was suicidal."

For the next few years, she followed the time-honoured antidote for heartbreak and, turning to her work, tried to forget her troubles. She had the satisfaction of working in a number of highly successful films like Kala Pani, Howrah Bridge, Chalti Ka Naam Gaadi and Barsaat Ki Raat On the personal front, she made an admirable bid to maintain a facade of normalcy, but a wastefulness and a lost look began to lurk just under the surface, and the fabulous smile no longer reached her eyes. "She must have been miserable, but she wouldn't show it," comments Sushila Rani Patel. "An ethereal beauty," noted Gulshan Ewing, "whose eyes were always sad, but whose lips were always smiling." But in the presence of long-time colleagues or in the privacy of her make-up room, there were times when sobs racked Madhubala. . It seemed the pair continued to pine for each other far after their break up, Dilp Kumar a crushed man slipped to alcohol, and eventually married Saira Bano Bharat Bhushan, Pradeep Kumar, and Kishore Kumar proposed her to. She eventually married the latter of the three, she and Kishore Kumar argued and bickered constantly, plunged into a loveless marriage with him Madhubala soon realized that she had made a mistake in marrying him, as she truly loved and desperately wanted to marry Dilip.

I have even read Madhubala's sisters interview and I could feel the intensity of Madhubala's love for Dilip Kumar

Here it goes...

(Taken from an interview with Madhubala’s sister)

Given the nature of her beliefs and her inherently emotional temperament, it was really no surprise at all that when Madhubala fell in love, she committed herself totally and for life. "Madhu loved only one man," confirmed her sister Kaneez Fatima, "and that was Dilip Kumar, till the day she died."

When she married... she was already sick. We had decided on going to London for the diagnosis. But Kishore-bhaiyaa was adamant, he said, 'Look she is not sick, nothing's happened to her.' And indeed, she didn't look very sick. My father and others tried to convince Kishore-bhaiyaa, 'Let the diagnosis be done in London first, and then you can get married'. But he didn't relent. Finally, the marriage happened and thereafter, they went to London. On coming back from there, I don't know what happened to Kishore-bhaiyaa, he came and insisted on her being kept at our house. He said, 'She is very sick, I can't take care of her. Even the doctor has given her little more time.' We said, 'Whatever little time she has now, she would love to spend with you.' But then he said, 'No, I have to go to shootings.' We suggested he keep a nurse. But again, he didn't relent. So we sisters, till today, have a regret somewhere deep within us, that the love she always desired, she never got.

I think she was also distressed by the gossip printed in the film magazines once she fell sick...

MB: Yes, a lot was printed about how she was very 'romantic' and had many affairs. Let me make this clear, I swear to God that this is not true. Of course, the industry is a man's world and as co-actors, she indulged in a bit of friendly banter with men, but everything got converted to linkages. 'Flirting' was the word used at that time.In that era, there were also gentlemen like Premnath-ji, who was linked to her after they co-starred in 'Baadal' and 'Saaqi'. Premnath-ji actually came and proposed to her, saying 'Madhu, I want to marry you.' But she declined saying our father was very strict and wouldn't approve of it.Just let me make it clear that she had once fallen in love with Dilip Kumar and married Kishore Kumar. Madhubala was confined to her bed in the last days of her life, she repeatedly watched her favourite movies, Mughal-e-Azam, Barsaat Ki Raat, Chalti ka naam gadi and Mahal. She used to recite Urdu poems to herself and saw her 'pyar kiya to darna kya' over 500 times.

KS: In her final days, where was she?

MB: She was with us. Kishore-bhaiyaa never took her.
Madhubala's reflections a chilling evidence of the disastrous consequences of the break-up on her mind and heart. All the underlying bitterness, the sense of betrayal and dejection come through as she speaks of 'the innumerable sorrows and few joys that life had given her.'
The sum total of my life is a bitter experience which is coiled tight like a spring within my heart and when released hurts excruciatingly. It is true that one learns something from every experience but when the experience is evil, the shock is so great that one feels as though one can never recover from it.
I am very emotional. I have always lived my life with my heart. For that I have suffered more than is necessary. I have been hurt.
She expressed her desire to see Dilip the day before she died.
Dilip Kumar had loved Madhubala, but would marry her only on his terms. Her father had loved her too, but laid down his own terms and conditions at every stage. Finally, both had to stand by and watch the disintegration of a beautiful human being before their eyes.

People say that Dilip Kumar till date makes it a point to place flowers over her tomb.

She had an amazing ability of not to give up till the end.

A lady with a tremendous will power.

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